I'm so anti.....

So yesterday while watching the Giants vs. the Cowgirls in Hooters with my bf and a friend, a convo came up. Said friend mentioned he wanted to take a trip to an island in the Caribbean and my bf told him he should take his gf with him his response was “Why? Ain’t like I’m going to Brazil.”

It was funny because I have told every guy I’ve ever been in a relationship with that there are certain countries that if they ever tried to go visit without me, they will be stepping off that plane single.Brazil is probably number one on that list. Mind you my current beau has always known this. So he proceeds to joke around and say “man I can go to Brazil, eff that, we going.” and I could see the hesitation to play along in his friends face because I was sitting there, but he did. All the while it’s not phasing me. Why? Simply because actions speak louder than words. This isn’t coming from malicious place at all. (I’m on my bed eating Peach Rings, who could be angry with Peach Rings?) however what did make me mad was the fact that his boy got serious for a second and gave him that “nigga stop pressing your luck face” and he response was “man she ain’t going nowhere.” I laughed it off and told him that he can go to Brazil if he’d like, but if he calls me and I don’t answer and he doesn’t hear from me, he knows why.” The scary thing is I think he thinks I’m joking.

Let me be clear, I cherish my relationship and I’ve gone through a lot with this person but please believe I’ll be sad, single, and respected before I tolerate that kind of disrespect and nonchalance from anyone. That goes for anyone and in any of those places on my list. Call me what you want insecure, negative, untrusting…whatever, but those are my rules, and if anyone wants to play Russian Roulette, that’s fine with me but I can honestly say that the man I’m with, no matter who he is, will get that bullet every time.